The Only Time It Really Matters

It’s easy when things are working out. Easy to be positive. Easy to think correctly. Easy to stick to the plan and be disciplined. But sooner or later you’ll face adversity. And that’s when you’re going to have your real test.

How you react to adversity is the only thing that really matters. The time that adversity hits is the only time that really matters because it will define everything that follows. Will you break down or will you keep the same positive and confident attitude?

It’s so easy to lose faith when things don’t go according to plan. It’s all too easy to forget all the work you’ve done on yourself and adopt a victim mentality. But there’s a way to avoid this. And that’s by reminding yourself of one thing when adversity hits:

This is the only time it really matters.

All your work, all your training, all your conditioning – this is what it’s for. Don’t be disheartened when things go wrong. Instead, realize that all that work is precisely for this moment. And how you handle it will determine your ultimate success.

Think about it. What truly separates the greats from the rest? It’s equally easy for everyone to think right and act right when things are going right. And this means that how they think when things aren’t going right is the only difference. It’s the real “secret”.

So from now on, don’t look at the bad times as unfortunate events that are happening to you. Rather, look at them as the only times that truly matter. How you handle these times will shape your trading and your life. Look at it as the goal. And accept the challenge.

P.S. This isn’t just nice sounding theory. I’m currently going through some personal adversity in my life where things have gone very off plan. My first reaction was to get upset and forget to be grateful and keep the unflinching faith. But then I remembered that this is the only time when all of these things really matter. And it all changed.

  • Great post. And great timing – for me yesterday was one of those days “that really mattered.”

    P.S. Glad to hear that your situation is turning around for you. Best wishes.

    -AT

    • Thanks AT. And best wishes to you too.

  • This post is fantastic Ziad. I would say closely related to Does Trading Have to Be such a Struggle For You? It reminds me again that there is no objective reality. Only we choose which emotions and feelings we assign to particular situation. Since that previous post lots of things change in my trading and also in my life. I don’t struggle anymore. I do not feel desperate and frustrated just because I choose not feeling like this.

    One point I would like to highlight is that your way of writing and your explanation have really strong impact on me and really fulfill its purpose. It´s not something I just read and forget. Thank you.

    Btw. I’ve got no doubt you’re gonna handle that situation and eventually something good will come of it.

    • Im very happy to hear that Petr. It’s great to know that you’re benefiting from the posts. It makes it all more worthwhile.

  • EasySkanking

    Thanks Ziad, this is something that I’m really struggling with right now – this really puts things in perspective and gave me a new angle on the situation. Indeed, the tough times are the ones that really matter, because if you make it successfully through them, you continue to succeed, but if you “go under”, you remain there… and it’s not a fun place to be… so, might as well get out now if you have no choice but to remain there or get out. If you don’t enjoy being there and you’re going to get yourself out later anyway, you might as well get yourself out *now* ;)

    You have no idea how much this has helped me at the moment… It might’ve just saved me from “going under” for a very long time… Yes it was that important! I guess it’s a good trade for the Emotional Freedom Technique insight I gave you haha… :) Thank you!

    I will do my best to “grind this out” and come out successfully – I want to! I want to succeed, I want to be happy! I no longer want to struggle… hopefully I make it through successfully :) I hope you make it through too!

    • That’s great to hear! With your determination and attitude I’m sure you will succeed. You’ll find a way. And I hope our coming comprehensive training will help you in doing that.

      • EasySkanking

        Thank you :) Awesome, look forward to it!

  • Kishan Bobba

    Terrific, As if every word came alive and making a conversation with me. Thanks Ziad Masri

  • EasySkanking

    Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.

    -Confucius

  • Andre

    This is inspiring Ziad, thank you!
    It reminds me of how trading can be an heroic quest.

    • It really can be! And it makes it a more fulfilling journey..

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